Fred,
I think you'll find the Lee Reloading Manual to be the most comprehensive single source of load data. Here's what mine says on your three loads for Jacketed bullets with W231 powder:
115 gr 9mm: Start 4.3 gr @ 1010 fps, Max 4.8 gr @ 1120 fps-Min OAL 1.095"
170 gr 40S&W: Start 4.5 gr @ 867 fps, Max 5.3 gr @ 1000 fps-Min OAL 1.115"
95 gr 380 ACP: Start 3.2 gr @ 860 fps, Max 3.2 gr @ 860 fps-Min OAL 0.975"
There was no specific data on the 165 gr 40, but the 170 gr data will be safe to use.
Now, get to loading!